Back in my naïve days when I saw the world through rose colored glasses, I used to think people did favor for others for no other reason than to help them. I still feel that way and I have seen that happen many times. I am one of those people who do favors for others without much expectation than a thank you and sometimes I’ve been okay without it. Truth be told, I do expect a reciprocation if I’m ever in need and that person can help me. But that is not the reason for offering my assistance. There is no projected reward in mind.
I remember a friend years ago questioning my innocent beliefs and telling me “Do you think a man is going to help you without expecting a sexual favor in return?” Well, yes. I do! If I can help someone without expecting reciprocation, why shouldn’t a man?
Because…maybe because that is the nature of a man?
Exceptions excluded, that seems to be the way the world rolls. Favors have a price and since a favor seldom carries a monetary exchange, a different form of payment is expected.
We see it every day in the news. A candidate endorses someone in exchange for a job in office. A producer offers a young actress a promising role in exchange for some favors in the bedroom. And in our daily interaction it happens frequently and if you, like me, wear the rose-colored glasses, you won’t notice it until the man helping you attempts to kiss you and when his advances are not welcome, his interest in the task he offered to do suddenly ends.
I didn’t bargain for sex in this deal, did I? I accepted an offer to help me. Paying with sex for a job – no longer a favor since I’m paying, would make me a prostitute, wouldn’t it? I mean, it’s the exchange of money for sex. Same deal. I’m okay with whoever makes that arrangement ahead of time, but I haven’t. My plan has only been to accept the help of someone who offered it.
I struggle now with that concept in my 50s as I did in my 20s. Not as naïve as then but still as hopeful, I still expect humanity to be good for the pure reason of doing good. And I expect honesty. I expect to be told the price of a job before it’s performed. If it’s not a favor, I want to know the price charged and I expect that price to be in US Dollars.
I usually carry that type of currency.