I write about my life and life itself seen through my eyes for who can write through the experiences of others if not their own?

Monday, June 09, 2008

Trust

Trust is often talked about alluding to it as if it were an entitlement or an item in our closet that deserves no attention.

But real trust is not that easily found. Naively we can proclaim to trust everybody. I trust my coworkers, my boss, my president (right!), etc. but do we? Rule of thumb is that what we see in ourselves is what we see in others, if we can be trusted, we are inclined to trust others. Likewise, if a person doesn’t trust more than likely that person should not be trusted.

And obviously, a person who lacks integrity in one aspect of their lives will not have it in another. Integrity is not a commodity we use as circumstances demand. We either have it or lack it.

But trust is more than ethics and moral values. It is more than loyalty and integrity. It is more than not lying and not repeating secrets. It is more than honesty. It is all of that and more.

Trust is reaching a level of comfort with a person where we can open up our inner feelings, show our weaknesses and put down the mask we wear knowing in an unspoken agreement that being ourselves is okay with that person. It is a sense of confidence in knowing that the person we trust wants what’s in our best interest and will be there for us not as demanded but as desired.

The person we trust is not the one with the interesting conversation, or with the insightful comments, or the problem solution. The one we trust is a life experience and a bond that can not be easily disrupted.